Sexual fantasies are completely normal, and some can even spice up your relationship. However, it’s important to explore these fantasies in a safe, low-pressure environment.
For example, you might want to talk about experimenting with new kinks or adult toys with your partner. But it’s also okay to discuss these topics when you’re not in a sexual mood.
1. Be a good planner
If you’re dating an older woman, she might be open to trying new sex fantasies or even role-plays. But you’ll want to make sure that you have everything planned out and ready to go, including sex toys and safe virtual sex, so that you can avoid any surprises or discomfort. And remember, as we’ve learned from experts, that older women are more interested in exploring their erotic imaginations than getting an orgasm. So be mindful and play with her sensually – she’ll appreciate it. And you might have the best sex of your life. Orgasms aren’t really the point of sex, after all.
2. Be a good listener
Being a good listener can be an effective sex technique, especially when you’re dating an older woman. She will appreciate that you are genuinely interested in her plans, dreams, and experiences. She might also be more willing to try different sex toys, role-plays, and techniques than she might be with someone younger. However, don’t use the conversation as a sex tool; that will turn her off faster than anything. You can strike the right balance by being a good listener without making her uncomfortable.
3. Be a good foreplay expert
Whether you’re in a long-term relationship or just getting frisky, foreplay is an important part of the experience. It can make sex more pleasurable, especially by reaching areas that full sex usually doesn’t. But it’s easy to fall into foreplay ruts: you know, start with kissing, then move on to over-the-bra action and finally some down-there pleasure.
If you want to take it up a notch, try roleplaying. Ask your partner to write down their sexual fantasies on little slips of paper and then pick one out at random to act out. This can feel a little cheesy, but it’s also a great way to get the imagination fired up and to build intimacy.
Remember, an older woman wants foreplay and will probably be turned on by a man who takes his time to slowly ignite her erogenous zones. If you’re not sure how to do that, consult a foreplay expert.
5. Be a good conversationalist
Being a good conversationalist is a life skill that’s beneficial in both your personal and professional life. It gets you thinking, passes time productively and can connect you to new career opportunities.
To be a good conversationalist, you need to know how to listen and what questions to ask. A good rule of thumb is to avoid closed-ended questions that don’t leave much room for a response. Open-ended questions will encourage the other person to share their thoughts, feelings and experiences with you.
It’s also important to be able to keep the conversation going. One way to do this is by telling a story. Storytelling is also a great way to convey emotion and empathy in a conversation.
Remember that older women want a good conversation, but they also like to feel engaged. So it’s important to bring up sexual fantasy exploration in a low-pressure environment. This could be as casual as bringing up the topic while watching TV or over dinner. It could also mean having a playful conversation about trying different sex positions or role-playing in bed.
